“Strength”
The emotion I feel when I see or hear a girl say “I could never have the strength to leave him” is an emotion I can not describe. I was the girl that did not have the strength to leave my exboyfriend. I never stood up for myself. But guess who left him. Me.
You know where my “strength” came from? It came from being sick and tired of letting some guy constantly disrespect me and push me around. Yeah yeah yeah, I’ve heard it all before, “I love him”, “he’s the one”, “I can’t live without him”, blah blah blah. Guess what! YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT HIM. And if you really do not think you can live without him, especially at age 14-18, you have no idea how much more shit life has in store for you. You have no idea how much more growing up you have to do. And don’t start with the “I’ve been through so much in my life, you don’t know me,” because I’ve heard that before too. Each year, you grow up an enormous amount. That is what life is. Growing up. And sometimes that means growing apart. Or growing enough strength to leave someone you think you are in love with.
And let me say something else while I’m on the subject. Love is not constantly fighting. Love is not calling names. And love certainly is not cheating in any way, shape, or form. If a guy says he loves you, yet turns around and makes you feel like shit, that is not love. Love is meant to make people happy. And make them feel good. And make them want to better themselves. And if you’re in a relationship where the person you’re with is constantly making you feel horrible about how you feel, how you look, what you think, then you need to get out of that relationship.
To all the girls that think they do not have enough strength, you do.
I needed to bitch about that for a few seconds.
